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What to Say When Someone Says "You're overreacting. It's not a big deal"
SAY THIS
“It's a big deal to me. That's enough.”
You own the scale of your own reactions.
“You're overreacting. It's not a big deal.” is a classic gaslighting move. What it really means: Let me set the size of your feelings. The goal of the reply isn't to win an argument — it's to stay calm, stay specific, and put the weight of the line back on the person who said it.
“You're overreacting. It's not a big deal.”
(it's a big deal)
TRANSLATION
Let me set the size of your feelings.
WHAT TO SAY BACK
“It's a big deal to me. That's enough.”
WHY IT WORKS
You own the scale of your own reactions.
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