What to Say When Someone Says "You made me do it"
SAY THIS
“Your actions are yours. Full stop.”
Causes don't transfer blame.
“You made me do it.” is a classic darvo move. What it really means: My hands, your fault. The goal of the reply isn't to win an argument — it's to stay calm, stay specific, and put the weight of the line back on the person who said it.
“You made me do it.”
(the oldest reversal)
TRANSLATION
My hands, your fault.
WHAT TO SAY BACK
“Your actions are yours. Full stop.”
WHY IT WORKS
Causes don't transfer blame.
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